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BE LIKE THAT!
For all Lord of The Ring (LOTR) fans, when the
news of the long awaited exciting finale of the
greatest epic adventure of all times has finally
come, they were overjoyed. I too, am one of the
LOTR fans. So, when I knew that Starbucks Coffee
is having a special charity premiere, I decided
to join the crowd. After watching the movie, what
I want to say about this movie is: “The
movie was fantastic!”. Besides the fighting
scenes, the part that gave me deep thought is
the kin relationship between Denethor and Faramir.
In the movie, Faramir played the role of the son
of ageing Gondor steward Denethor, a lost soul
who yearns for his father’s love. Denethor,
the king of Minas Tirith is always act like a
ditactor who controls everybody. He had never
expressed his care and love to Faramir. What he
cared for was only his kingdom. He scolded Faramir
when Faramir returned back to Minas Tirith after
Faramir had failed to protect the border and lost
the city to Orc. He did not show any concern to
Faramir about how and why they failed in the task.
Denethor even told Faramir that he wished Faramir
had died in the war instead of his brother, Baramir
because he was so useless.
I really have deep thoughts after watching this
movie. Why did Denethor act that way to Faramir?
Was it because he is the king or he the father
who can’t put himself down to the earth?
I think this scene not only happens in the movies
but happens too in real life especially in the
Asian country. For us, expressing our feeling
to others is “NO WAY”! We always tend
to neglect people around us especially our own
parents/ children. We are shy to express our love
and care to them. We only notice and start showing
them our care and love when they are not by our
side. This is not a healthy scene.
During my university life, I attended a workshop
where during the sharing session everybody was
required need to share something about themselves.
Until now, I still can recall what a senior told.
The senior said that life without love and care
is meaningless. He grew up in a single parent
family with three siblings. Throughout the years,
his mother sacrificed a lot for the family. He
had never told his mother how he appreciates what
his mother did for them because he thought this
was not a must. But, he regretted not telling
his mother how much he loved her and now she had
left him. He advised that we should always express
ourselves to let others know how much we care
and love them. Since then, I took his advice.
Now, I feel that my relationship with my parents,
sibling and friends are getting better and better.
Here are some tips that you can refer to if you
are willing to give it a try:
- Greet when you meet each other because greeting
someone in earnest can brighten that person’s
- Praise when one has done a good job. Don’t
be too stingy with words.
- Respect each other.
- Don’t compare one another.
- Say it and meant it.
- Clearly expressing your feeling to others
when you feel so.
- Always listen and respect others opinion before
you make a decision. Be prepared to negotiate.
So friend, let us start now to show others that
we care and concern about them. But remember,
show it only at the right timing…J
Lim Siow Yen